Q: Things are moving fast for me with deconstruction of everything. Nobody understands though and I feel guilty for changing so much. Is it normal to feel completely alone in this process?

A: The real question being asked here is “If everything is dissolving, and I can’t be understood, does that mean I’m lost—or that I’m finally free?”

Your surface question, “Is it normal to feel completely alone in this process?” carries an assumption that what’s happening to you is abnormal, possibly wrong, and that connection should still feel the same when the self that sought it is being dismantled. The guilt and loneliness aren’t about others misunderstanding you; they’re the echo of the old identity realizing it’s being left behind. The one who longs for belonging is the one being deconstructed.

During the Deconstruction Phase the architecture of the false self is collapsing; relationships, meanings, and familiar emotional coordinates are losing their shape. The illusion of “shared reality” fades, and what’s left feels like isolation, but that’s only because the dream no longer provides warmth. The phase is not pathological; it’s the stripping away of everything untrue. The aloneness you feel is not absence, it’s the first unmediated contact with reality.

So the real movement isn’t toward being understood. It’s toward seeing who it is that still demands to be understood.

 You’re not alone; you’re just without illusion. The false self calls that “loneliness.” In truth it’s just “silence.”

The forward-moving question: Who is the “me” that still wants company in the fire?

Also, “Who feels guilty for dying?”

The guilt you’re talking about isn’t moral, it’s existential. The false self feels guilty for betraying its own illusion. It’s watching the dream burn and thinking, I did this. I’m abandoning them. I’m wrong for leaving. But what’s actually happening is that the scaffolding of identity built from obligation, approval, and belonging is collapsing. The guilt is the echo of that structure trying to resurrect itself.

The mind confuses disloyalty to illusion with harm to others. But you’re not hurting anyone; you’re just ceasing to participate in the collective fiction that kept everyone comfortable. Of course the dream calls that betrayal. Every system defends itself.

Deconstruction is the phase where the self’s survival mechanisms are exposed. Guilt is one of its last weapons. It whispers, “Go back. Be who they need you to be.” It’s not truth speaking, it’s the dying voice of the identity that was sustained by others’ expectations.

If guilt is the cost of leaving the dream, who is it trying to pull back, and why does that one still believe it owes something to the illusion?