Q: I'm pregnant and would like to know how I can raise my child in a way that they can reach the true human adulthood you describe at a stage appropriate time?

The real question behind this question is: “How do I spare my child from the dream I haven’t yet escaped?”

You can’t raise your child to reach Human Adulthood. You can only stop preventing it.

You can’t manufacture maturity, you can only remove the obstacles: Don’t feed them comforting lies. Don’t hand them borrowed beliefs. Don’t reward conformity. Don’t punish seeing.

The natural movement toward Human Adulthood is built into the system. It’s the organism’s true developmental trajectory, but culture interrupts it. Every lullaby, cartoon, classroom, and belief system tells the child what to think instead of letting them see. Children are born free and then trained to be afraid of freedom. That’s usually what we call education.

You don’t raise an ‘awakened’ or special child. You raise a sovereign human and protect their direct contact with reality. Everything else - faith, culture, the self - will try to take it from them.

Encourage questions, not answers. When they ask something existential (“Why do people die?” “What happens when we dream?” “Why do we pretend?”), you don’t hand them a story. You hand them silence, space, or a better question. The goal isn’t to make them clever, but to keep their direct relationship with not-knowing alive.

If you want to raise an adult, don’t raise a believer. Raise a questioner.

Human Adulthood is perpetuated through modeling, not teaching. If you live honestly, if you’re not defending a mask, role, or belief system,  they’ll feel it. If you pretend to know, to be right, to be holy, they’ll feel that too.

Your sovereignty gives them permission to develop theirs. Your self-deception gives them the blueprint for theirs.

Your question arises from Phase Two: Disruption moving into Phase Three: Deconstruction. In Disruption, the old story of control - especially the parental one - begins to fracture. The person sees that the roles they’ve relied on (mother, teacher, protector) are performances inside the dream. The impulse to “raise a child right” can be an attempt to reassemble identity under a new, spiritual banner: the awakened parent. Deconstruction begins when you see that even this identity must burn.

The forward moving question will be some version of: “How am I teaching my child to stay asleep?” What do I model when I say 'everything’s okay'?" What am I protecting when I lie by omission? How do I use love as control? What parts of me are afraid to let my child see what’s real?

If you want to give your child a shot at adulthood, in what ways are you still modeling childhood?