Q: How do I stop being influenced by validation? I know it's just fear of not-existing and I can see its purpose in this reality (to keep the dreamstate turning)...

...but I still get hooked right back in to it like a drug when I get validated by someone attractive.

A: This is a very sharp piece of self-observation. You’ve already seen that validation is regulation of the self model. The real question being asked here is a good one and worth inquiry: who am I without someone else reflecting me back to myself?

In Deconstruction the structure is cracking. You see the addiction clearly, but you still want control over …